New Year's Resolution: Lose the All or Nothing Attitude | A Rose in Bloom

I'm going to say something that is not a common mantra in this world. We are totally programmed to think something different and that we are somehow insufficient if we do not give everything 200%. So I am going to say scream this. Are you ready?

Sometimes, you just need good enough.

There. I said it. I don't know if it's going to be the stupidest or the wisest thing I have ever said, but this year I am planning to find out.

You see, I don't know about you, but I like to set goals. I like to set really, really high goals. I also like to get upset when I didn't meet said goal or, alternatively, I may realize that I set the bar way too high and give up altogether. The latter has become a greater problem for me in my adulthood, and I'm guessing it may be affecting you too. This is bad and I'll tell you why: not every day is going to perfect,. Not everyday will be filled with an exquisitely detailed regime where you take in the perfect amounts of perfect vegetables and perfect exercise or even perfect eyeliner.

In a lifetime, we're going to have a whole lot of average days where we don't feel like we have 100% of anything. We are going to oversleep and feel like there is no point in doing a shorter workout. We're going to say "Eh, I had a donut for breakfast so my clean diet is shot today - might as well grab Taco Bell." But this year, I really want to change that about myself.



Instead, I want to adopt an "every little bit counts" mentality. Ok, so maybe I did spend too much time on my eye makeup and I don't have time to walk the dog a full mile - just get her out of the apartment for a few minutes and finish the rest when I come home. Maybe I did have a donut for breakfast (I can't help it - the best place in town is minutes from my apartment ok?!) but that doesn't mean it's pointless to have a salad at lunch and sauteed kale with my supper. It's all about the little bits hopefully helping to make life overall more peaceful and well rounded. In fact, maybe we'll even begin to lessen our fears of big, daunting tasks by breaking them up into tiny bits. I know this might seem silly and a bit rant-ish, but think about it. An "every little bit counts" mentality can really change your every day life.


Yes, I do have time to clean the apartment today - 10 minutes is all I have, and in 10 minutes things will be clean enough for now.

Yes, I can read a 500 page book - 30 pages at a time.

Yes, I can exercise today - 5 sun salutations will at least let my blood flow freely.

In little bits here and there, our lives slowly begin to become filled with a few good things instead of empty hours lost. So today, if all you can is manage one good serving of vegetables and squeeze in a little downward facing dog, remember that anything is better than nothing and that doing an little bit of anything is better than doing nothing at all.

Stay beautiful,

XOXO Liz


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10 comments

  1. Wow !! This is well said, thank you for these uplifting words ! There's the quote "do not look at other people's chapter 20, when you're still at your chapter 1" and it's true, what about our efforts in between? Those efforts will get us more near to our goals. Love x

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    1. That's a great quote! I'll have to Google its origins!

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  2. Yes yes yes yes!! 100% love and agree to everything! I know that not every day is going to be amazing, I'm not always going to eat healthy (currently drinking a can of Coke), I'm not going to hit my daily walking goal every day, and I won't write every single day. And I'm okay with that. All we can really do is try and if we fail one day there's always the next one! :)
    ~Sara

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    1. Yep, that's part of the beauty of life. There's always tomorrow and if not, oh well.

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  3. Love the message in this post Liz! It's those little things that we chose to do or not to do that really count. Wishing you a very happy New Year!

    Paula
    Thirteen Thoughts

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    1. Happy New Year to you as well! I hope it's wonderful!

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  4. Love love LOVE this post and what you wrote here about good enough being enough is so true. We cannot do everything at 200%. Hell, we can't even do 5 things at 100% it's just not physically or mentally possible. However, we can shoot for small goals and celebrate these. Definitely think you have the right mentality, lady!

    Rae | Love from Berlin

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    1. Thank you! We'll see how this works out in a year from now. I hope to be overall more satisfied with my accomplishments. Happy New Year!

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  5. Wow truly mesmerising post. Just want to say thank you for sharing this. I thought it was so insightful and mindful yet humorous.

    I'll take that quote into consideration.

    But also the quote that I keep on telling myself recently is 'everyday is a second chance'. Sometimes I kick myself and say, 'today I didn't do anything, I didn't even have fun, I just sat on my arse feeling guilty for myself'. And in that 10min before I go to bed I do something that was on my to-do list, or even meditate to put me in a good mind for the next day. And when I meditate, I reassure myself that it's ok to do that, not everyday will be spectacular - take it 'lil by lil'

    lots of love, from your new follower, Kara x

    (I also bookmarked this so I can read it again when I feel low)

    Kara Chelsie

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    1. That is a wonderful, beautiful outlook on life! I shall take this to heart: everyday IS a second chance. You're right too - not everyday will have an A+ rating, but if we take it little by little we are bound to find the tiny beautiful things.

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